For the rest of my life, shoes should fit, and people should be in tune.

the long road of life, how muddy and bumpy, all pass under your feet.

some people say that what is really exhausting is not the mountains and rivers you are about to cross, but the sand in your shoes.

any emotion is also like the relationship between shoes and feet. The feet know whether the shoes are comfortable or not. Whether the person is suitable or not, the heart knows.

therefore, walking in shoes is the most important thing. When two people get along, getting along with each other is the most important thing.

01

Don't change others and wronge yourself

writer Bi Shumin once said:

Don't just covet the luxury of shoes and wronge your own feet. What others see is shoes, but what they feel is feet.

whether the shoes are beautiful or not, they are all for others. Only you know whether some relationships are comfortable or not.

A person's life is not always plain sailing, and it is inevitable to go on and off.

who can't and who can't? outsiders see facial expressions, and only sincerity can tell the truth.

shoes that do not fit, no matter how exquisite or expensive, wear out the feet.

people who are not suitable, no matter how much they like, no matter how good they are, it is the heart that bears the burden.

Wang Guozhen said:

there is no longer road than feet, no higher mountain than man.

as long as one's feet don't stop, one shoe is always chasing the other. Only when the feet rest, the two shoes have a chance to meet and talk to each other.

the right person is not someone you need to chase desperately, but is willing to take you with you when you are tired.

this life is so long that if a relationship makes you feel uncomfortable, there must be something wrong.

shoes that don't fit, take off as soon as possible. Those who are out of tune should stay away as soon as possible.

shoes are designed to protect the feet, and no feet have ever adapted to shoes.

therefore, do not wronge yourself in order to accommodate others.

02

not much, just fit

I have heard such a story:

A Zen master asked a young man, "do you think it is better to have a grain of gold or a pile of mud?"

the young man replied: gold is good, of course.

the Zen master smiled: what if you are a seed?

there is a saying that

choice is more important than effort. If you make the wrong choice, your efforts will be in vain.

so, the best may not be the best for you. What suits you best is the best.

feelings are the same. It really doesn't matter how good he is. It belongs to him.

it really matters how good he is to you. This belongs to you.

Zhang Wuji, the protagonist in Heaven Sword and Dragon Sabre, is lucky enough to be favored by four women in his life, but Zhao Min is the only one who can win his heart.

she has a clear distinction between love and hate and cleverness, which complements Zhang Wuji's indecision. If you hesitate, I will dare. You are capricious, I tolerate.

it is only in front of Zhao Min that Zhang Wuji loses his temper and reveals his childlike innocence. But in the eyes of others, Zhang Wuji will always be an unassailable hero with great affection and righteousness.

just because Xiao Zhao is good, he is only suitable to be silently around to be a close confidant. No matter how good a spider is, she is just a cousin who once lived in her heart. No matter how good Zhou Zhi is, she let respect overwhelm love.

although Zhao Min is unruly, he can fight with him all his life and make his life interesting or boring.

We live for nothing more than to be comfortable. Find a person who is not tired to get along with, understand your implication and feel sorry for your desire to stop.

the right person is not necessarily the best person, but it must be the one who knows you best.

03

the same frequency, not tired to get along

has always liked a passage:

people with similar frequency, even if they cross mountains, will eventually get together; people with different magnetic fields, even if they get along day and night, they are not the same person.

I think so: those who understand you are self-evident. People who don't understand you can't argue.

some people say:

people who are in tune will not reason with you when you want to comfort, nor will they fight you when you are so angry that they smoke.

more importantly, he knows how to make you happy and how to make this long life easier to get along with.

communicating with people who are not on the same frequency, even if you forgive him tens of thousands of times a minute, it won't solve the problem.

because he doesn't want to understand you, you can never beat him.

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but when you get along with people who are in tune, it goes without saying.

if you inadvertently frown, he will know that you have something on your mind. With the lightness in your tone, he can share your joy.

have nothing to say, and there is no need to be suspicious, because we know each other too well. No matter what they say, they will not quarrel, because they are reluctant to give up.

be with such people, such as the spring breeze in April and the warm sun in winter. Even in the face of firewood, rice, oil and salt every day, you can make life sweet.

shoes don't have to be beautiful, but they must fit comfortably.

you don't have to be good at dealing with people, but you must be tacit and in tune.

knowing you is the truest feeling. To accompany you is the warmest confession.

for the rest of your life, let the shoelaces fit you to see the scenery and go to bloom side by side with the people who are in tune.