If you are gentle and firm, you will be happy for the rest of your life.

Lin Qingxuan once said, "see the world with a pure heart, live with joy, love with an ordinary heart, and remove obstacles with a soft heart."

A soft heart is not only the precious quality of touching life, but also the great wisdom to make life tougher.

be a soft person in this hard world.

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the true goodness is the soft

Laozi said: "the upper good is like water, and water is good for all things without dispute."

kind-hearted, is the soft side of life, like water, gentle, generous, embellish and silent.

A soft-hearted person not only has the mind of accepting all rivers, but also has enough wisdom to express that kindness and sympathy.

Mr. Yang Jiang wrote a prose called Lao Wang.

Lao Wang is a disabled rickshaw driver who is blind in one eye. he has a brother who died early, leaving two nephews, but one is less promising than the other.

Lao Wang works with an old tricycle every day, and all his possessions are that tricycle, but Yang Jiang and his wife feel that Lao Wang is a simple and honest person, so they have been secretly helping him.

because Lao Wang is one-eyed, other guests don't want to ride in his car for fear that he can't see with one eye and hit someone again.

but Yang Jiang and his wife don't think so. In order to take care of Lao Wang's business, Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang often ride in his car. In order to make him earn more money, Yang Jiang often asks Lao Wang to come home and help them deliver things.

their kindness also won Lao Wang's friendship and gratitude. A few days before his death, Lao Wang went to visit Yang Jiang and his wife with excellent sesame oil and "countless" eggs.

goodwill is not a loud cry, but a kind of care from the inside out, a silent power.

Lin Qingxuan said: "A soft heart is a lotus flower, blooming because compassion is water and wisdom is mud."

soft people, kind but not flamboyant, while caring, worry about the self-esteem of others and know how to leave a decency for others.

this kind of respect for life is not only the greatest goodwill, but also the warm character of humanity and temperature.

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gentleness is the best family language

someone in Zhihu asked, "what wisdom of life do you admire in your family?"

the answer with the highest number of votes is: "I have never seen Mom and Dad blush."

indeed, in the eyes of the family, the most beautiful thing is not great wealth and fame, but a beautiful and warm family atmosphere.

gentle, is the best family language.

A psychologist once went on a trip with a newly married couple. during the trip, he observed that the wife had a bad temper and would blame her husband for reasons such as plane delays and bad weather.

but the husband had a particularly good temper and always maintained a gentle attitude in response to his wife and silently helped her pack.

A few years later, when psychologists visited the couple's home, they found that his wife's character had become softer and more patient than before.

asked why, the wife concluded, "he has a good character and has always been gentle to me." naturally, it wears away my bad temper. "

there is a saying that is right: "if you want a gentle partner, be gentle with your partner first."

Family atmosphere is like soil, always honest, reap what you sow, you will reap what you sow.

if you sow the seeds of violence, the whole family will get used to quarrelling to communicate; only with a soft heart as the seed can we let each other know the truth of tenderness.

the so-called bone and blood affection is the warmth that flows through hard and cold, reaching to the depths of the heart.

only when you are soft, you will be tougher

. In life, you will inevitably encounter setbacks, the bitterness after failure, and the predicament in confusion are all an inescapable part.

the strong and independent in the eyes of many people is to build a thick shell for themselves to withstand the wind and rain outside.

there is a word called "when you are at the extreme, you will break". People who are too hard are easy to break their bodies and hurt themselves.

the ancients often used this analogy: the teeth are hard, the tongue is soft, and when all the teeth are gone, the tongue is still useful.

this is where life really grows: softer, but tougher.

soft, does not mean weak; weak people are not only easy to get hurt in life, but also difficult to get up again once they fall.

softness is not an escape, but a kind of calmness. As written in a small poem:

although the little lights in the room have gone out, I am not afraid of the dark, for there are always stars in the sky; the most beautiful roses have thorns, but I am not afraid of roses, because I have a rose garden, which I only admire but not pick.

Laozi also said: "the world is not weaker than water, and those who attack the strong can not win, so it cannot be changed."

the real strong, as soft as water, can calmly face the bitterness, but also ready to meet the sweetness of life.

in the long journey of life, only by keeping a soft heart, can we have more tenacious and lasting vitality.

in this world shrouded in steel and cement, we should know how to protect the real softness of life from desertification.

do not let it become hard, rough and cruel, but let a gentle state of mind and kind feelings be more.

so as to accommodate and nourish deep feelings and love, and let the heart grow a warm and soft field.

if you are gentle and firm, you will be happy for the rest of your life.