Learn to "see a doctor" for yourself (this article is priceless)

I very much agree with such a paragraph:

"I am used to finding myself in the eyes of others, and I am at a loss;

magnify myself from other people's praise, the result is elated;

distort myself in other people's talk, and I feel dazed."

at present, many people believe in "planting more flowers and fewer thorns" and are afraid or unwilling to find fault with others, so it is often futile to expect outsiders to "see a doctor" for themselves.

to find your own problems, you still need to look inward and learn to "see a doctor" for yourself.

people who learn to "see a doctor" for themselves will have a clear and accurate understanding of themselves without being beautiful or evil.

the growth of life is a process of constantly "seeing a doctor" for yourself, and no one can replace it.

01

people should be good at discovering their own "faults"

as the old saying goes, "if a man is not a sage, there is no fault."

everyone has their own shortcomings and faults, and what matters is not that, but your attitude towards them.

do you often reflect on yourself, be good at discovering and correcting it, or choose to turn a blind eye and put all the blame on others?

netizen @ Lao Le talked about his friend's son Xiaoxiao.

not long ago, Xiaoxiao attended a high school classmate reunion and came back in low spirits.

because another student who attended the party worked as an investment manager in a foreign company, his income was considerable and he was very popular.

he said that his classmate's father, who has been working in the financial industry, has been nurtured since childhood and will inherit the family business in the future.

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then he began to complain about his life: he had to strive for everything by himself. He was influenced by his mother because of his low EQ and unpopular speech.

in fact, Xiaoxiao graduated from 985 University with a bachelor's degree in architecture. From primary school to high school, his parents' life revolved around him.

after graduating from college, he found a job in a real estate development company, from nine to five every day, smooth and comfortable.

eight hours away, he plays TV series and games, and his daily life is not much different.

he habitually envies others and blames his dissatisfaction on his parents and his native family.

Xiaoxiao's father was very depressed and said to outsiders, "my son still refuses to be responsible for himself."

obviously, Xiaoxiao is a person who is not good at finding his own faults. he attributes his problems to the environment and does not know how to reflect on himself.

someone said: "if everyone can put introspection decades in advance, at least half of them can become great people."

this sentence can fully reflect the significance of reflection for a person's growth, success and success.

French philosopher Montaigne said:

by the same token, a person's greatest sorrow is not that he has something wrong with himself, but that he does not know what is wrong with him.

only by being good at self-reflection, finding faults in time, and working hard to change, can one's life be stable and far away.

02

learn to see your emotional illness

Liang Ning, a famous product, once said:

"emotion is a person's underlying operating system.

what drives a person is his mood, his underlying operating system. "

in the adult world, whatever emotion is life.

if a person cannot see his emotional illness and cannot consciously control his emotions, he will only make himself stumble, suffer, and suffer.

one year, Microsoft had a project worth nearly $100 million in South America that needed to be taken care of.

Bill Gates understands that the newly recruited managers are all capable of doing the task, and he is just thinking about who is more appropriate to hand it to.

at this time, Patrick was the first to come to the office, and he was the most suitable person.

although Bill Gates believed in Patrick's abilities, he asked Patrick curiously, "Why weren't you at all positive at the project meeting last week?"

Patrick explained:

"Last week, I was in a bad mood and didn't want to do anything.

but this time is different. Everything has been taken care of. I have full confidence. You can rest assured. "

Patrick thinks the project belongs to him, but Bill Gates believes that the project has a bearing on the future of the company, and how can you rest assured that it can be handed over to such an emotionally unstable person.

finally, Bill Gates handed over the project to another manager.

Patrick's ability is no worse than others, but the problem is that he can't control his emotions very well.

there is a term in psychology called "emotional wisdom", which refers to the ability to recognize, understand and manage emotions.

those who cannot recognize and control emotions are "emotional imbeciles".

emotion is not the whole of our life, but it can affect our life direction, quality of life and happiness index.

what is the most important thing in a lifetime?

nothing more than career, family, and health, while a bad mood can easily destroy these important things and destroy the whole life.

as the saying goes:

stable emotions are not only standard for an adult, but also a pattern of great achievements.

03

being able to see your own "illness" is a kind of self-cultivation.

I like the saying

"A person needs a window to see the outside world and a mirror to see his heart.

the window looks outBright, the mirror sees its own shortcomings. "

with the mirror of "introspection", a person can improve his own level, make his mind clear, and continue to achieve a better self.

knowing how to find a reason from yourself is not only a kind of wisdom in dealing with the world, but also a kind of top self-cultivation.