No matter who you are with, remember these four principles

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first, you are the only one who can really help you.

there is such a story.

once upon a time, there was a man who encountered difficulties, so he went to the temple to worship Guanyin. When he entered the temple, he found that there was also a man who was kneeling and worshiped Guanyin. Later, when he looked closely and found that he looked very much like Guanyin, he asked, "are you Guanyin?"

the man replied, "Yes." The man was even more confused and asked, "but why do you worship yourself?" Guanyin smiled and replied, "because I have encountered difficulties, but I know that it is better to ask for help than to ask for yourself."

many times, we always think that when we are with people who are better than us, they can help you out when you need help.

in fact, no matter who you are with, you are the only one who can really help you.

others may be able to help you for a while, but not for the rest of your life. Others may be able to help you, but not for the rest of your life.

everyone has their own life to live, their own difficulties to stand up to, don't pin too much hope on others, and don't rely too much on the help of others.

No matter how many friends you have and how good your relationship is, you will always be the one who can help you out of adversity in the end.

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second, you are the only one who really understands you.

do you have the experience that there are many moments when we want to tell all our worries and worries to someone who can understand and understand you?

there is a saying:

sometimes, when you encounter something unhappy, it is useless for you to tell more people, because other people have not experienced the life, and do not understand your difficulties.

sometimes, when something goes wrong, it doesn't make sense for you to tell it to more people, because others don't know how you feel or understand your difficulties.

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sometimes, when you encounter anxiety and pain, it doesn't make much sense for you to tell more people, because others don't understand your situation or your helplessness.

so, we don't have to be demanding. Everyone can understand the bitterness in our hearts, the tiredness in our hearts, the regret and loneliness in our hearts.

No matter how close you are, they can only give you some simple comfort and encouragement, but you are the only one who can really understand you.

your emotions can only be digested by yourself. You are the only one to soothe your feelings. You are the only one to adjust your state.

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third, you are the only one who really makes the decision.

maybe we often encounter things like this:

whenever we need to make a choice, from what clothes to wear, what to eat, what haircut, to what kind of job we are looking for, what kind of people to marry, what kind of life we live, we like to ask for answers.

there is a saying:

in fact, many times, it is not that we do not know what we want, what we like, and what we want to do, but that we do not dare to affirm our thoughts or bear them, because of the negative and bad results that choices bring to us.

maybe when you feel confused and confused, others can give you some advice, but don't ask others to give you a foolproof choice.

maybe when you feel tangled and hesitant, others can remind you of the pros and cons, but don't expect others to help you make the most difficult decision.

No matter how good people you are with, in the end, they will not be able to help you make choices about how you live your life, because you are the real person you have experienced.

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fourth, you are the only one who really pleases you.

in life, we always base our joys and sorrows on others.

if others don't give us what we want, we will be sad.

if others don't treat each other the way we like, we will be disappointed.

if others don't do what pleases us, we get angry.

in fact, a person's happiness and happiness should rely on their own efforts and strive for. Instead of relying on others to give and give.

when you rely too much on what others say and do to you to determine your whole mood, then you will live a miserable life.

always remember to find a reason to be happy instead of letting others make you happy.

always remember to learn to adjust your mindset instead of letting others control your life.

when you really learn to be the master of your emotions, you won't feel bored and unhappy because others don't care, don't care about you.

on the contrary, you will love yourself more, learn to take care of yourself better, and learn to get along with yourself better.

the one who really tortures you is yourself, and the one who really makes you miserable is yourself, so you don't have to ask others how to please you, you are the one who can really please yourself.