See a person's moment thoroughly

have you ever had this experience?

in a certain moment, some people around you suddenly become hideous, which makes you feel strange.

you thought he had suddenly changed, but in fact, it was only then that you saw his true face.

in reality, it takes us a long time to know someone, but it only takes a moment to see someone clearly.

the season is like a stream, passing by in a hurry. People can pretend for a while, but they can't act for a lifetime.

if you want to see a person thoroughly, take a look at these four points.

01

money

there is a joke on the Internet:

there is a man whose friend borrowed 10,000 yuan from him, but when he repaid the money, the friend only paid back 9999 yuan.

he asked his friend why there was a piece missing.

my friend said, "if you include the interest, you should have charged an extra eight yuan, because I had a handling fee of 10 yuan when I withdrew the cash, and I was the one who suffered the loss."

my friend had nothing to say but sneered.

10 yuan can see a person clearly, which seems ridiculous, but in fact it hurts.

the world panicked, but in order to break the silver, it was the broken silver that made people look ugly.

writer Shuimuran told a story:

A real estate owner planned to reward an old employee with a house in order to thank him for the loyalty he had followed for many years.

so he asked his veteran employees to choose from the real estate he developed.

the veteran staff directly chose a large house of more than 120 square meters.

the boss did not expect the old staff to be so greedy and disappointed, so he insisted on giving away an 80-square-meter house.

but the veteran staff not only did not thank him, but also rejected his small gift and threatened to resign.

the boss finally saw the nature of the old employee, took back the house directly, and agreed to the resignation request of the old employee.

Mark Twain once said, "fanatical desires induce dangerous actions and absurd things."

greed and anger are entangled, and the gulf of desire is difficult to fill. Once people get lost in it, they are apt to lose their minds.

money is like a maze, which not only obscures feelings, but also tests human nature.

in fact, it is not shameful to love money, it is shameful to be too greedy.

A person who is too greedy, you never know what he will do for money and is not worthy of deep acquaintance.

02

the trough can be seen in the hearts of the people

some people ask: "which moment in your life makes you feel cold?"

highly praised replied: "in the darkest moment of life, but the people around you are watching coldly."

in the comment area, the experience of an anonymous netizen hit the hearts of the people.

A few years ago, a friend was short of funds to start a business and asked him to borrow money. He lent money to his friend without saying a word.

my friends were grateful at that time and promised that they would do their best if they could help in the future.

later, my friend's business became better and better, and he soon returned the money to him. The two also exchanged frequent contacts and visited each other during the holidays.

Last year, his business failed, from multimillion-dollar to penniless and embattled by economic disputes.

in order to win the case, he wanted to hire a good lawyer. Remembering that his friend's cousin was a well-known lawyer, he asked his friend to help him pull strings.

but my friends always find an excuse to prevaricate, either saying that my cousin is out of the country or that his business is busy.

in desperation, he had to try and find his friend's cousin's company.

only after a detailed chat with his cousin did he know that his friend had never mentioned him to his cousin at all.

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when the waves go through the sand, the trough can be seen in the hearts of the people.

only when people roll through the quagmire can they really understand the people of the world.

writer Feng Jicai has a good saying:

in this world, the thinnest is human, and the coolest is the heart.

when you are in a busy city, you are full of friends, and when you are at a low ebb, you are ruthless.

how dark your dark hour is, how evil the heart you see is.

when you are at a low ebb, don't disturb others and overestimate any relationship. you are the only one who can pull you out of the quagmire.

03

character

psychologist Philip Zimbardo proposed a "Lucifer effect":

refers to under the influence of a particular situation or atmosphere, people's character, thinking and behavior will show an incredible side.

especially when people stand high, they are most likely to get carried away and show arrogance.

in reality, some people are supercilious as soon as they gain power, while others are modest and introverted at high places.

Peking Opera master Mei Lanfang is the latter.

Mei Lanfang not only put down her posture and worshiped Qi Baishi as her teacher when she rose to fame, but also often studied ink and laid paper for her teacher.

once, Mei Lanfang and Qi Baishi went to the same family as guests.

Qi Baishi arrived first in plain cloth shoes, and no one recognized him, so he had to sit quietly in the corner.

after a while, Mei Lanfang arrived, and the host and guests swarmed in to greet him.

after a short greeting, Mei Lanfang searched everywhere for the teacher.

seeing Qi Baishi being left out in the cold, he squeezed out of the crowd and went to Qi Baishi. He respectfully called "teacher" and bowed to say hello.

the guests were surprised to see this, and they knew that the old man was the famous Qi Baishi.

Qi Baishi was also quite moved because of this, and a few days later, he specially presented a picture of sending charcoal in the snow toMei Lanfang, the prompt wrote:

"remember that the former dynasty enjoyed peace, and cloth clothes moved the public secretary.

now it has been reduced to Changan City, and fortunately Meilang knows his name. "

the best character of a man is to be high without being conceited.

I have heard a saying:

"all domineering and bluff is a sign of inner weakness;

the really strong can produce a kind of compassionate tenderness from the bottom of their hearts."

mature rice ears bend over, and the vast sea is silent.

the best time to see a person is to see his posture when he is proud.

can overcome vanity, treat others and humble people, the character will not be bad.

04

Family members see Ben

in the hit TV drama Awakening Age, the scene of Li Dazhao's return home touches people's hearts.

after returning from Waseda University in Japan, Li Dazhao was directly employed as editor-in-chief of Jiayin magazine.

No sooner had he settled down in Beijing than he rushed back to his hometown in Hebei.

Li Dazhao walked into the yard and saw the two children carrying water. He hurriedly ran forward to lend a hand.

but the children didn't know him and shouted in horror, "Niang, Niang."

wife Zhao Seelan thought it was a weasel again. When she heard the news, she drove out of the kitchen and mumbled, "what if it's not a weasel?"

Li Dazhao said happily, "simple Tuo."

his wife was stunned and stood still. He said to his wife tenderly, "Sister, Hantuo is back."

after dinner, he patiently taught the children to play chess. After his wife was busy, he gave his wife a skilled massage and exchanged his ideas.

his wife was worried about holding him back. He patiently comforted him and said, "how could that be?" Not to mention how down-to-earth I am with you behind me. "

outside, he is a talented and sought-after leader of new ideas. at home, he is just the father of his children and the fool of his wife.

there is a classic dialogue in the movie Godfather:

"do you have time to spend time with your family?"

"of course I do."

"well, a man who doesn't take care of his family is not a man at all."

Home is the habitat of the body, and the family is the safe haven of the soul.

people drop their guard and show their true appearance only in front of their families.

those who are gentle outside but grumpy and grumpy at home must be the ones who hide the sword in their smiles and stay away as soon as possible.

A person who is not good at words on the outside but is gentle and considerate to his relatives must be a hot person in his heart and worthy of deep acquaintance.

A person's attitude towards his family is his true background.

05

like this sentence very much:

everyone's bowl is mixed with hypocrisy, without flashy, it is difficult to see the truth.

you don't have to be too warm to get to know people, you don't have to get to know people too fast, let the relationship grow slowly and let the roots take root a little deeper.

on the road of life, it is self-evident who is a fellow traveler and who is a passer-by.

because time will help you filter out hypocrisy, and experience will refine the truth for you.