The upbringing in the heart (profound! )

A person walking in the world can be admired and willing to communicate, often not the amount of wealth or fame, but whether a person has good moral character and profound upbringing.

in Zizhi Tongjian, it is said that those who are talented are the capital of virtue, and those who are virtuous are handsome.

No matter how talented a person is, if his virtue is not good, he will not be able to go for a long time.

good moral character is the education engraved in one's bones and the cultivation in the depths of one's soul.

educated people tend to be free from blame, reflect on everything, and be grateful for everything.

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Laozi said, "when Great Way is implemented, it is not to blame others."

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whether a thing can be done successfully depends not only on personnel, but also on destiny. As the saying goes: "three points rely on hard work, seven minutes of heaven is doomed." There is a limit to what people can decide.

if you do not ask the cause of something, blame others first and put the blame on each other, which is often self-defeating.

saw such a story:

A customer was tasting tea in the shop and found that there were many small pieces in his tea. He was very angry, so he called the shopkeeper.

the shopkeeper said gently and politely, "excuse me, sir, what can I do for you?"

the customer said angrily, "your tea is so bad that you can't drink it if you add some milk."

the shopkeeper said softly, "excuse me, sir, I'll change your drink right away."

so I brought a new cup of tea.

the shopkeeper said softly, "Sir, may I make a little suggestion to you that if lemon is added to the tea and milk is added, the tea will clot?"

after hearing this, the customer was very ashamed. It turned out that it was because he accidentally added lemon.

as the old saying goes, "blame others before you blame yourself".

when you want to blame others, think about yourself first.

it's hard to see your own problems if you always put your eyes on others.

in the story, after the caking of the tea, the customer first thinks of blaming the tea for being bad, but finally finds out that it is his own fault.

after knowing the truth, the shopkeeper did not blame the guests for being unreasonable, but solved the problem in a suggested way and won the hearts of the people.

the ancients said, "blame yourself with the heart of blaming others, and forgive others with the heart of forgiving yourself."

people who like to blame others are often unwilling to take responsibility. An educated person is first of all a person with a sense of responsibility.

they know that when things happen, they can live in harmony with their families without blaming their families; only if they do not blame their friends can their friendship last forever; only when they do not blame their partners can they help each other.

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everything will reflect

Zengzi said: "I reflect on myself three times a day."

people can improve and gain only after they realize their own shortcomings.

A person who does not know how to reflect is like a well frog, sitting in a well watching the sky and turning a deaf ear to other people's advice. Over time, the people around you will stay away and everything will not go well.

Zeng Guofan once said: the fault of a bosom friend is to admit it, and it is the most difficult thing to change to have no grudging heart.

it is the most difficult thing for a person to know his fault, then admit it and correct it.

Zeng Guofan, who is known as "a perfect man through the ages", did not know how to reflect on himself when he first joined the DPRK as an official.

offended a lot of people. As a result, when he fought with the army of the Taiping Heavenly Kingdom, he fell into a desperate situation several times, and no one was willing to support him.

later, because he could not recognize himself, he wanted to blackmail the emperor into giving him the power to supervise him, so he was sent back to his hometown for mourning.

during the three years of mourning, Zeng Guofan deeply reflected on himself and found that it was because he was too upright to deal with others, and finally realized the truth of "combining strength with softness."

later, he returned to the court and became a completely different person. He acted with moderation and law, and eventually became a generation of important ministers and was supported by his colleagues.

Xunzi said: if a gentleman is knowledgeable and the day attends to himself, he knows well but does nothing wrong.

A gentleman is knowledgeable and reflects on himself every day in order to be knowledgeable and make no mistakes.

ordinary people should constantly reflect on their words and deeds and examine their hearts, so that they can keep their hearts clear and at ease in the complicated world.

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be grateful for everything

there is a saying in Zengguang Xian Wen: the grace of dripping water is rewarded by Yongquan.

Thanksgiving is a person's best character, encounter good things, learn to be grateful, because let us see hope; encounter bad things, learn to be grateful, because teach us to grow.

in life, we must learn to be grateful when we meet people who help us.

it's not easy for everyone. It's their duty to help, but not to help. The people who help us, because they care, can not let them cold heart.

when Han Xin was a teenager, his family was very poor.

often hungry, I go fishing by the river every day and trade the fish for other people's food.

there was an old woman who often washed clothes by the river. when she saw that he was pitiful, she gave him her own food every day.

later, when Han Xin became famous, she gave her mother-in-law a daughter in return.

Rousseau said: "without gratitude, there is no true virtue."

only a grateful person can accomplish great things and get help from others.

everyone, in this world, can't be on their own. People need to interact with the people around them, be grateful, will be recognized by others, will also get God's help.

ancient times

ancient timesPeople say, "treat others with leniency and convince people with virtue."

upbringing is the foundation for a person to settle down and settle down, which can only be revealed through the precipitation of time and profound experience.

when something happens, not blaming others is a kind of considerate wisdom;

seeing things and reflecting on yourself first is a pattern that dares to take responsibility;

when things happen, learn to be grateful. It's a way to see through the world.

in this life, may you be magnanimous, content, reflect on yourself and be grateful. Only in this way can you have a happy life!