Three realms of self-improvement: read yourself, surpass yourself, and please yourself.

Plato said in the Republic:

in this complicated world, the wise man crosses by himself.

We must understand that the real worry solver in this world is ourselves.

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read yourself: only by recognizing yourself can you rebuild your life.

there is a saying in the Collection of works of the Mid-levels:

it is better to read a favorite book ten times than to read a hundred books;

to read a book ten times, it is better to reflect on your life experience.

it is better to read others than to read yourself. "

people who live clearly tend to know themselves through experience and become themselves in reflection.

Lin Qingxuan won all the literary awards in Taiwan before the age of 32 and became editor-in-chief of the China Times.

he is also gradually busy and becomes unruly.

at that time, he made friends with Gulong and often asked him for contributions.

but the manuscript is given only after spelling wine Gulong, which coincides with Lin Qingxuan's love of drinking, so the two often compare the amount of alcohol, and even pour Shaoxing old wine into the washbasin to compete with each other.

however, the noisy days are always short.

Lin Qingxuan's life has changed one after another: his wife ran away from home, and his good friend Gulong also died of liver cirrhosis.

he is discouraged and intends to re-examine himself and reflect on his life.

he resolutely quit his job, went up to the mountain to practice, kept company with himself, and returned to earth nearly three years later.

he said that after self-examination during this period of time, his heart has become more calm and filled, and he has become more comfortable in the face of changes in the world.

when it comes to drinking, he also changed his usual habit of binge drinking and thought that "drinking" is the best way to drink.

Socrates once said: "an unexamined life is not worth living."

Smart people will see their own shortcomings, stupid people will only see their own strengths.

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self: better than your past self, you can expect the future

read a sentence in a book: "see the direction clearly in self-examination, and forge ahead in uncertainty."

dare to break through your own ceiling in order to complete the gorgeous transformation.

Last year, when I was at home because of the epidemic, I watched a documentary called "the way the Chinese live".

there is a protagonist named Kong Longzhen, a truck driver who loves painting.

since childhood, he likes to draw, but the school does not offer art classes, so that parents think that what the school does not teach is evil.

in the rebellious period, coupled with poor studies, he dropped out of school at the age of 15 and drove taxis, buses and trucks.

at the moment of life and death in a car accident, he realized:

after the robbery, he put his drawing board and brush directly in the cab and seized every opportunity to draw while waiting for goods and driving.

in the morning of inspiration, he even cancels his plan to get out of the car and immerses himself in writing.

sometimes he laughs at the question of "what can a truck driver who didn't graduate from junior high school draw?"

he doesn't know what it will look like, but he just wants to stick to his beliefs.

until 2015, Kong Longzhen's works were taken to the Connor International Art Exhibition in Denmark.

it is worth mentioning that this is the fourth Chinese to be invited to the exhibition after Xu Beihong, Qi Baishi and Ye Qianyu.

it is said that the biggest obstacle in life is yourself. Once you cross it, it will be flat.

it's easy to stay where you are, but those who insist on breaking through themselves will see more scenery.

the real growth is constantly superior to who you used to be.

in the movie Transcendence, Hao said:

03

please yourself: to please yourself is the top self-discipline

famous actor Yu Feihong once said:

once you live in the evaluation of others, it is the beginning of losing yourself.

only by caring about your feelings can you live your own track.

as we all know, Mary is not a traditional aesthetic beauty.

she was anxious for fear that others would mind the spots on her face and not slim enough.

and even later, she tries to be what others want her to be, living exactly what others want her to be.

even with the Charlotte annoyance fire, she didn't get rid of this mentality.

at a film and television meeting, some fans pointed out: "you are too fat, you should lose weight."

when Mary heard this, she really lost weight to S-size and her weight dropped to double digits.

but people have long acquiesced that she is a "strong girl", so when she released the real picture, there were two voices.

one voice complained that her "P map was too much", while the other reminded her, "Don't be too beautiful, you won't be funny if you're too beautiful."

she finally found that it is difficult to call a thousand people, and it is difficult to adjust the population.

since it is impossible to satisfy everyone, it is better to be happy yourself.

in 2018, despite opposition from the agency and friends and relatives, she insisted on cutting her ultra-short hair:

"I used to live for others, but this year, I decided to live for myself."

she also filmed "Men's costume" to show her charm and get rid of the comedian's label of being ugly and funny.

not only that, she resolutely married her boyfriend who was 10 years younger than herself, and the two agreed not to care about the evaluation of the outside world and concentrate on living their own little life.

the world is your own and has nothing to do with others.

We don't need to care about the eye of the spectator, we must learn it.It is to admire yourself.

I think of Mr. Cai Lan's classic philosophy of life:

everyone's short life, the person who should please him most is himself.

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after taking this course to please yourself, you can really accept yourself and have a stronger heart.

writer Feng Tangzeng wrote:

writer Feng Tang Zeng

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