Whatever makes you miserable is here to cross you.

French writer Beaufort has a classic dialogue:

"do you really love life?"

"Yes, I love life."

"you've never been in pain?"

"several times. But pain itself is life. "

A few words reveal the essence of life.

in this world, there is no kind of life that is only sweet without bitterness, and no one's life is only bitter without sweetness.

Life is full of ups and downs, and life is accompanied by suffering.

with pain, happiness is especially sweet, and when suffering is reconciled, the picture of life is more gorgeous.

as the saying goes, "how can you get the fragrance of plum blossoms without chilling to the bone?"

everything in the world has cause and effect, and whatever causes you pain is here to cross you.

01

painful experiences make you stronger

in the yearning Life, actor Liu Xianhua once talked about his experience of filming in the desert.

he gets up at 04:30 every day and shoots for 12 hours in a 40-degree desert, often hanging from Weiya and flipping back and forth.

he asked he Jing dejectedly, "is life always so difficult?"

he Jing said: "after you finish shooting, you will be proud of yourself when you watch it in the cinema."

in this regard, Huang Lei said a paragraph that is memorable:

"suffering is a good thing. The more you have not suffered, the more pessimistic; the more you have not suffered, the more depressed you are;

on the contrary, people who have suffered are more optimistic and upward."

everyone goes through painful times, which can be difficult at the moment, but after that comes transformation.

those sweats and falls will become your courage and experience to resist the wind and rain.

this reminds me of the movie queen Hui Yinghong, who started begging at the age of 4 and has been begging for many years, so that she has learned to observe her words and expressions since she was a child.

later, she entered the show business and made her debut as a martial arts actress. Although she no longer had to beg, she was still struggling, and she often fell all over her body while filming.

once, she jumped from a height and fell straight to the ground, breaking her leg.

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but the play could not stop, and there was no time to give her a plaster treatment, so she had to go back to the crew with a broken leg to continue filming.

the martial arts instructor hugged her, her upper body was busy fighting with others, and her broken leg was rickety.

but she could only hold on and hold on until she finished filming before hurrying to the hospital for treatment.

all kinds of bitterness and frustrations not only did not overwhelm her, but developed her persistent and tenacious character.

finally, driven by this power, she grew from a nameless little beggar to a radiant queen.

how much pain you can endure, how much success you deserve.

Life is like a river, through winding and tortuous winds and showers, there is a vast sea ahead.

02

all the people who cause you pain are the

soldiers who have come to cross you.

the soldiers are also eager to rob the treasure.

Fan advised Liu Bang:

"does Pei Gong want to pacify the world, or do he want to be a rich man?

these things are the root causes of the demise of the Qin Dynasty. Please hurry to return the military hegemony and do not stay here. "

Liu Bang turned a deaf ear and was still addicted to alcohol.

when Zhang Liang, a counselor, heard this, he hurriedly stopped it:

"now I have just entered Xianyang, and the world has not settled down yet. How can it be compatible when the princes enter the customs in the future?"

is bound to cause disputes again. I hope you can listen to Fan Kui and not be nostalgic for this place. "

on another occasion, Liu Bang's capable general Yongya betrayed Liu Bang.

later, Yongya surrendered to Liu Bang. Although Liu Bang reactivated him, he always held a grudge against his betrayal.

Liu Bangben was going to kill Yongya and then quickly, but under Zhang Liang's persuasion, he not only rewarded Yongya wantonly, but also sealed him.

but his reward is not to forgive and thank Yongya, but to appease the hearts of those who want to rebel.

writer Cao Youfang once said:

hurting people who betray you may have hurt you a lot, but it will invisibly enlarge your pattern.

the person who makes you miserable is not necessarily the one who hurts you, and the one who hurts you doesn't necessarily make you worse.

No matter it's good or bad, don't refuse, let alone run away. The people you meet are all catalysts for your growth.

nine times out of ten, life is unhappy. Instead of sinking into the past, it is better to look forward.

03

whatever makes you miserable, it will finally help you

some time ago, there was a very popular video on the Internet:

A young photographer trained in the gym with a camera in order to make the photography more stable.

he kept running under his feet, but his upper body was motionless, and from time to time he twisted the picture of his body, properly using the word "steady".

at first, he could only train with a yoga mat, then gradually switched to running and shooting with his mobile phone, and finally developed the hard power of carrying a camera.

the things that make you miserable will eventually fulfill your life in some way.

some of the bitterness in life, if you don't take the initiative to eat it, it will be doubly difficult for you at some point in the future.

if you don't want to be made difficult by life, the best way is to take the initiative to bear hardships.

4: 00 in the morning, veryMany people are still in their sweet dreams, and the alarm bell of writer Zhang Meng has rung.

after getting up, she makes herself a cup of coffee, sits at the window, opens the book, and turns on reading mode.

Zhang Meng reads a book from 4: 00 to 7: 00 every day, and reads more than 300 books a year.

it is precisely because of such a huge amount of input that she supports the output of three books a year.

after 7 o'clock, she runs for half an hour, at least four times a week.

then go home to wash up, briskly switch to her entrepreneurial identity, and start a busy day.

because she often travels or participates in activities, in order not to waste time, she directly converts the car into a mobile office, often videoconferencing and live broadcast in the car.

Zhang Meng has been turning herself non-stop for 20 years, integrating reading, sports, work and other things that others consider painful into her daily habits.

she has also transformed from an ignorant little girl into a best-selling author and young entrepreneur.

I think of a passage by Cai Kangyong:

in this life, people's hardships are conserved, and they cannot escape nor escape.

simple and happy things can make you happy for a short time, but things that are painful and difficult to do can really help you.

in this era of rapids, people who can break through the ground are good at "asking for hardship".

04

Life is a miserable spiritual practice

M á rquez said in "one hundred years of Solitude":

"We follow the ancient journey of life, running in frustrations, Nirvana in setbacks, sorrow all over the body, pain floating all over the ground."

We are tired, but we can't stop; we suffer, but we can't avoid it. "

maybe we've had a lot of ups and downs, or maybe we have a foggy road ahead.

whatever you do, don't be discouraged, let alone give up, please walk on with your head held high.

Life is a bitter practice.

only through the washing of wind and rain can we meet the rainbow unexpectedly.

build a tenacity in suffering, a leisurely in ridicule, a future in initiative.

Life, it's worth the trip, and it's enough.